By Mary Sanchez, Kansas City Star

But for the grace of God go many women when the subject is Sarah Palin.

No, most women will never be considered for vice president. Palin should never have faced that challenge either. As many have pointed out, she doesn’t exactly have the heartiest resume of political experience.

Kay Bailey Hutchison comes to mind as a better choice, as do Christine Todd Whitman and Olympia Snowe. Surely there are others who could have filled this role and also been of the gender that John McCain wrongly believes is necessary to court women voters.

Palin is being touted a bit like the female boss whom female workers are supposed to like because of her gender alone. Sorry, but far too many of us have been out in the world long enough to see through this simplistic shtick. Those who look like us do not always have our best interests in mind.

Yes, Palin is likable. Spunky even — the kind of woman you’d enjoy knowing because she could hold an interesting conversation, retell a poignant anecdote, and also offer a tip on where to buy a great pair of shoes. She’s obviously accomplished as a local and state politician, a loving wife and mother. All laudable attributes.

But women voters do not need a vice president they can lunch with. They need someone who could step in and be the commander in chief.

Peel back the Palin veneer and what is revealed is a woman dealing with many real-life issues facing American families, but not in ways that would form strong public policy. So while Palin alternately glows and flinches during her 15 minutes in the national spotlight, her story can highlight a few concerns.

She has a 5-month-old baby with Down syndrome and a teenage daughter who is pregnant.

The risk of having a baby with Down syndrome increases as a woman becomes older (1 in 910 at age 30, according to one source, and 1 in 28 at age 45).

Palin is 44. With many women now marrying and having children later in life, and with many unable to afford the tremendous cost of fertility treatments, the odds of older women giving birth to a child with a genetic disorder are high.

Some turn to abortion. Personally, I respect and agree with Palin’s opposition to abortion. It would not be my choice either. Seeing the way the Palin family held the infant son Trig during Palin’s Wednesday acceptance speech, there was no doubt how much love exists for that baby.

But voters also recognize that rape happens, that pregnancy by incest happens, that giving people access to contraception can prevent unwanted pregnancies. Palin’s view doesn’t address those harsh realities. How Palin runs her family is her business, but what she deems best for the Palin family isn’t necessarily best for the masses.

Bristol Palin is pregnant at 17. Thankfully, she is also from a well-off, supportive family that will likely ensure she does not end up in poverty and still earns a college degree. Most teenagers in her place can only hope for the same.

Bristol doesn’t need sanctimonious critics chastising her. But teenagers like her most certainly need well-run public schools that accommodate students with children, daycare options, and employers that will see her potential and not just the conflict a baby can cause for a new career.

And Bristol obviously could have used what her mother adamantly opposes: access to contraception rather than just the “stay a virgin” message that, while perhaps ideal, is not realistic.

Dissuading kids from having sex too young is one thing. But the wishful hopes of the adults preaching chastity should not cloud the truth: that teens are still having unprotected sex.

Finally, much has been made of the idea that Palin should focus on being a mother rather than a politician, as if the two were mutually exclusive.

Had Mitt Romney been chosen as McCain’s running mate, you can bet no one would be suggesting that Romney would be too taxed at the end of his day to spend appropriate time with his five children. There is, after all, a Mrs. Romney to help out. Just as there is a Mr. Palin.

Respecting Palin as a savvy woman is one thing. Believing she is the right choice for the job of vice president is condescending to women voters.

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